mom must’ve been a popular name for women in the 60’s and 70’s
The first dozen times I heard this, I was horrified. But I heard it over and over again. I realized that many young men are not being taught the impact that sexual assault has on a woman. They are inundated by sexual imagery in the media, and often come to the (incorrect) conclusion that having sex is not a big deal. This, no doubt, is why the number of sexual assaults is so high.
Laurie Halse Anderson, author of Speak, on the question “Have any readers ever asked questions that shocked you?”
Read that again. Read it again, and again, and again. Over and over guys have asked her why Melinda was so upset about being raped. This is a girl who went to a party with friends. She was thirteen. She had a drink, because everyone else was. And a senior held her down and raped her while she was too drunk to get away.
And guys don’t understand why she was upset.
Read that again and then come back and tell me again why I should just shut up and take a joke when a comedian blows off rape as a big deal, or women’s bodies are casually treated as commodities in media. Remind me why I shouldn’t care about the very real harm that society’s treatment of women and sexual assault does.
Today is Dia de los Muertos, or Day of the Dead in Latin@ (specifically Mexican) culture. It’s a long standing tradition that dates back to the time before Spanish occupation. During these next two days, we’ll be honoring the memories of the loved ones we’ve lost throughout the years by building temporary shrines to them, stocked with some of their favorite things in life, as well as memorabilia they may have left behind. We also will be following the tradition of our ancestors, who attempted to take the fear out of death by turning death into a caricature. Our homes may be decorated with calaveras (sugar skulls) and images of La Catrina.
Here is what you CAN do:
- wish us happy DdlM/DotD
- ask us who we’re remembering and how
- accompany (if invited) a celebrating friend or co-worker to a church, graveyard, etc.
Here is what you CAN’T do:
- refer to this as “Mexican Halloween”
- paint your face like a calavera out of “respect for the culture”
- take images of calaveras or La Catrina and wear/use them simply because “they look cool”
Thanks in advance for being intersectional non appropriating decent human beings!
Your friendly neighborhood (Latina) cat lady
Ps. Taking a semester of Spanish in high school, or being 1/25th <insert Latin@ culture here> does NOT make you exempt
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Kay, so, it just recently got to my attention that there is possibly a Tumblr Virus going around. And this post has so little notes, so I decided to make THIS BIG IMAGE and hopefully THIS will get your attention.
It is on the askmgc blog, whatever you do, don’t login. Do not login whatsoever.
It’s not actually confirmed it’s a virus, but here’s a few suspicious things:
- The url. I mean, shouldn’t it be a simple “tumblr.com/login” (and maybe a redirect.) Not tumblr.com.accounts.login.userid.###### etc?
- The background image doesn’t change, and it’s supposed to.
- "Blam"?? What? I don’t even know what to say about this but other than "game-over"? (Don’t worry, I put in fake credentials, obviously.)
So yeah, if you see this, do not log in at all.
I go on tumblr everyday but I don’t go on my blog specifically but when I heard about the deletion of random blogs I had to log on oh goodness I’ll never go on hiatus again